“I feel the need to endanger myself every so often.” – Tim Daly
This quote really made my mind boggle. I wasn’t really sure what road to take it. I don’t think I actively try to endanger myself, in fact, I struggled to understand why anyone would want to. Until my mind went off down a different path.
Endanger means to put at risk or to put someone in danger and while I definitely don’t want to put myself in danger, I do enjoy a risk. By risk, I mean consensual risk… I don’t mean putting myself in a situation that could cause me actual bodily or mental harm.
Risks can be fun – pushing a boundary, tipping the scales. That risk could quite literally mean anything and there are quite a few risky kinks.
Risky Kinks that get me Off
Right now, I am super keen to try knife play. The idea of cold metal pressed against my skin really gets me off. My rational brain tells me I should really be outweighing risks here because it is a risk. If not fully spoken about, it has the potential to put me in a dangerous position. Endanger me. So far, we haven’t dabbled and realistically I think it’s because of time. Something like knife play requires planning, time, us alone to fully engage with each other, with no distractions. Something we fully never get enough of.
Similarly, I really want to try suspension. Again, another kink that definitely has a risk factor attached to it. And like knife play, time and a proper rigging environment are the reasons why this hasn’t been ticked off the list yet. It will happen at some point though because I am a super rope whore. I love the marks, the sensations, the texture.
Erotic asphyxiation is also a huge turn-on for me. This however is something we dip into but most definitely not to the extremes. I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to but there is such a fine line and really this one in my opinion really needs serious boundaries set up before ever trying it. It really isn’t one to be messing around with. For those who do not know what Erotic asphyxiation or breath play is intentionally cutting off the air supply for you or your partner with choking, suffocating etc.
Impact play, which I adore, can be a risk too if not performed correctly. There are a lot of delicate organs near the bum and thighs and strikes can easily land there and cause bruising and pain, often internally. Care needs to taken at all times.
So I guess maybe I do endanger myself more than I realised. I guess risky kinks do get me off. There are far more than I have mentioned here but I prefer to just take to tips of the iceberg first before unleashing all my kinks 😉