“Pleasure is sweetest when ’tis paid for by another’s pain.” – Ovid
I am not a sadist.
In fact, I am as far away from being a sadist as I am straight. I don’t relate to the quote and as a result, I have really struggled to pen thoughts for this week’s quote. I actively try to not hurt others – in any shape or form. I wouldn’t have one sadistic bone in my body and I don’t understand how anyone could get pleasure from inflicting pain on others.
I am however a masochist and I adore being at the mercy of my OH who identifies as a sadomasochist.
I asked him about the quote and while he can easily detach from the pain aspect he says he does struggle when it comes to me. However, knowing I enjoy it helps balance his emotions. He said “inflicting pain on you, gives me pleasure because I know it gives you what you need and in turn completes the circle.” I had planned to get more from him on this but time isn’t on my side this week 🙁
I was going to tie my name into this post but personally in my opinion someone who identifies as a sadist or a masochist doesn’t necessarily have to identify as a dom, a sub, or a switch. Folks can be into all those things without being interconnected. That said if you were to relate them then my name is lie as I am not a switch! I can have switchy tendencies but not if there is a love connection there because I really struggle to hurt those I love.