“Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live. Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are. Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.” ― Neville Goddard
I think this quote is possible one my husband suggested because to be fair, it isn’t one I would seek out and it is different from my usual style of quotes but when I went looking last week for the prompt this one spoke to me.
It is Monday and usually, folks would have stolen the virginity of the link-up by now but thus so far, it still remains a canvas of white.
I want to break down the quote and give my thoughts on it because while some of it is relatable to me, I don’t actually agree with it all.
“Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live” –
This bit I actually do agree with. I do believe that a healthy mind contributes to a happier, productive life. When we allow negative feelings to take over they can certainly spin us off in all sorts of directions. I know my brain can be a right arsehole – I suffer massively with anxiety though I guess if you met me, you wouldn’t think it! I think I have a good mix of anxiety and being a worrier. But I actively try to be neither and thus, hoping it changes my conception of myself and the world around me.
“Do not try to change people; they are only messengers telling you who you are.”
And now we fall into the bit I don’t agree with so much. While I definitely agree with not trying to change people, I do think we should try to educate them instead. That of course, can spread far beyond the world of sex blogging – however as we have seen of late, we definitely need more education here. People, however, won’t change regardless of us trying to change them. The second bit of that I really disagree with. Messengers telling who I am? Really? And what if they are very wrong? I instantly think back to school bullies and people who have been nasty to me, taunted various slurs of abuse at me? Are they really telling who I am? Am I those things? You see this is where the conception of who I am comes in because if I allow my brain to take over, then I start to believe those taunts.
“Revalue yourself and they will confirm the change.”
Hmmm! So it is only when I see myself as positive things, that I can be seen that way? I guess there is truth in that. But equally I can also hide pain and be postive, do people see through the act and see my pain? Again, I don’t agree to this bit – I don’t need to confirmation of others and their approval. I gave up long ago caring how people see me. It is only those who I care about that can affect me. I don’t just mean folks I meet every day, once a month etc. I also mean online friends too – people I have gotten to know too, those come under the same umbrella. But the person walking near you, nope. The randomer that looks at me funny, nope don’t need their confirmation either.
I think we all need to revalue ourselves at some point, but we should do it because we want to, because we feel like we need to check in with exactly we are at the point in time.
Remember to be kind to yourself <3 We all have brain assholes days and on those days, we need to remember we are awesome as we are. The only one we need to please is ourselves.