“Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope, and that enables you to laugh at life’s realities.” ~ Dr. Seuss
Other people’s fantasies, regardless of their context, really intrigue me. I wonder what other people fantasize about – from life, from work, sexually? Have they completed that so-called bucket list or does that too remain a fantasy?
The thing is with me is I don’t actually fantasize. Not sexually anyway. I know my husband doesn’t believe this concept but I actually don’t. If I want visual inspo while I jack off, it will usually be some FF porn or something on those lines. More often than not the urge to wank or that need to cum often stems from a collection of thoughts or events leading up to that moment where I finally release.
Maybe we had sex the night before and it was hot. Yanno that really filthy, hot sex that gives you all the urges well that can result in having some fun. I often enjoy having sex and not orgasming. I enjoy the build-up. It is almost like a storm brewing deep within me. Knowing I made him cum, gets me off. His moan. His breath quickening. The way his hands dig into my hips and pull me closer to him, getting all of him. I am happy to do that day after day, knowing that when I do it will be explosive. Feeling his body tremble undermine and knowing I did that. That gets me off.
Sometimes though, it can be thinking about what I plan to do to him. Or him, me. Maybe he has plans and I think about how they have happened before, wondering if they will happen the same way. I often can end make myself writhe on my chair, typing, thinking about us.
Would you consider that a fantasy?
The thing is I don’t. I am a realist. Fantasies to me can only be a fantasy if I know at some point they will happen. Like sexually the only thing I am really interested in pursuing at some point down the line is the possibility of adding a woman into our dynamic. I kinda like the idea of having a live-in partner with us. Maybe. The idea, the very few times I have thought about it, seems less scary and more possible. Not really sure I would class that as a fantasy though.
Dr. Seuss’s quote suggests we should all fantasize. That is good for the soul. And I do believe he is right. While I might not fantasize sexually, I most definitely do when it comes to day to day life.
I know the kind of house I would love to build with my husband. I know the bits I would love to have in the kitchen, the glass sunroom I want, the office, the snug full of books beside the massive window, the lanai with the massive lake. The business I know we would run together and I know we would be damn bloody good at it too.
Yeah, I guess do fantasize after all…..