“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”
~ Oscar Wilde
I enjoy picking open-ended quotes for QuoteQuest. I think they give many opportunities for interpretation and in all honesty, when I chose this one I had no idea which way my post would go for it. Truth be told I am still unsure.
My OH has an interest in the Quote Quest meme… He will often ask what quote I have chosen and this week’s quote has created a bit of a debate. He isn’t really keen on the quote, while I read it a bit differently. He said he was quite surprised I chose it as a quote and while I write this post there are currently only 4 link-ups this week. He believes the reason behind that is because I chose this quote. Maybe he is right… He thinks regardless of the situation that sex shouldn’t be about power. It should be always between folks who are on a level platform regardless of their dynamic and yes, I would 100% agree with his sentiments. He is correct.
He also thinks that there is a possibility folks could find it triggering and if that has been the case for you this week, then I deeply apologize because that has never and would never be my intension.
I read the quote differently. I read is as sex being power. It is powerful. It is one of the most beautiful, emotional acts out there and to me, it does signify power. Even if you are not in a D/s, M/s, etc relationship, sex is a powerful thing. Engaging in a physical, sexual relationship with someone especially when you are emotionally connected is also like stepping out from under your skin and baring your soul. Sex can be just sex. Everything can be just sex but when you feel all those other emotions then sex isn’t just sex anymore.
It is power.
And for me, when all those boxes are ticked, it is like the stars align. I am His. He is mine and together, I feel powerful enough to take on even the biggest thing. I need that physical connection that I get from sex to keep that power. Sometimes I wish I could bottle that feeling so that when we aren’t so physical, I can still maybe take a pill or have a quick smell of us and feel myself realign again.