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BDSM Diaries: What is Wax Play?

posted by LSB April 1, 2020 13 Comments

Disclaimer: Please note everything mentioned below is about my personal experiences. Please practice safety while playing with fire. Be aware of your situation. Communicate and play safe.

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OMG – is it really nearly four years ago since I wrote about wax play on here :O

Last year, I wrote about how you can use massage candles if you are interested in hot wax and I still think they are a great way to start your journey. They have less bite yet still give you an idea of what hot wax might feel like.

What is Wax Play?

Wax play involves lighting a candle (but not just any old candle lying around) and dripping hot wax on the body. Wax play falls under the sensory, temperature play aspect of BDSM.

However, that does not mean anyone can’t do it. Anyone and I mean anyone can dip into this. Partnered or solo, kinky or not, it really makes no difference. If you are intrigued – try it!!

But a mix of fire, bed, and body sounds unsafe, no?

It can be! Therefore you need to make sure you set the scene up before you start. I would recommend laying down a blanket first. I can highly recommend the Sheet of San Francisco fun sheet as you can literally just throw it straight in the wash when finished, shake off most of the wax first though! Plus it adds to the scene in my opinion as it has a kink vibe about it – looks like leather etc.

So your blanket is down, leave the candles in an easy to find place with a lighter. I would recommend having somewhere for them to stand too. I’ll explain why in a bit. Make sure there aren’t any overly flammable things nearby – for example, the lingerie you might have just removed, etc.

Pre Play Tips

Buy safe candles!!

UV wax play

Using any old candle you have lying around is dangerous! They are made from a completely different type of wax. Wax burns at different temperatures. The wax used to make hot wax candles that are suitable for wax play burns at a much lower temperature. This means the won’t burn your skin and they tend to cool a lot quicker in use before they even hit the skin as well. As well as the temperature, a scented candle that you use to set to mood tends to be full of skin-irritating chemicals.

Soy wax candles burn at the lowest temperature and are the safest to use. You can also get paraffin wax candles too – however, these burn slightly higher so be aware of that before you buy!

 

Some people find removing the wax afterwards painful. Personally, I love this bit. I am one of those people who enjoy dipping my fingers into the wax of a pre-lit candle and peeling it off.

However, if you think you would find this painful then I have an awesome tip!

 

Remember above I mentioned using a massage candle to test the waters out before trying hot wax. Well, you could actually do both. Use the massage candle as a warm-up. The massage candle will most likely leave behind an oily residue on your skin which should provide you with the perfect barrier against the wax and make it easier to remove!

I also mentioned having somewhere safe to leave your candle while it is lit. The reason for this is it allows the wax to melt and pool, ready for you to use. This is especially important with massage candles or if you are using a jug.

 

 

Ok, you are pre-oiled (if you want to be) and ready to get onto the wax play.

The main event

First things first – set up a word that means stop. Stop, personally, in my opinion, is the best word for this. Who really needs to remember ‘pineapple’ when your ass feels like it on fire?

Next, test the wax out before you play. On yourself and on your partner. Understand how it feels and pay attention to the height at which you apply the wax.

The height makes a HUGE difference!!

The closer to the body the most intense the wax will feel. The further away the less etc.

The distance between the wax hitting the body means the wax has time to cool down before it makes contact with the skin. I went investigating on google to see if I could give you a better idea of distancing. Some say 15 inches away, others 18 inches. I say use your common sense if it starts to hurt pull back. The best way is to start far away from their body and work slowly downwards. Communicate with your partner, if you are playing with someone, this needs to be done throughout.

Communication is the single most important aspect of any relationship but it is even more important when to comes down to a relationship that has a BDSM factor.

What does wax play feel like?

 

my body cover in uv wax after our wax play session

To fully answer this question, we actually played with some candles last night. I really need to feel each word before I type it and I couldn’t have done that yesterday.

 

Wax play really relaxes me – last night I felt myself drifting off somewhere else. Given the current situation with Covid19 that was most welcomed, I must admit. At one point, I was actually falling asleep. My husband kept checking in with me as he was getting closer to my skin and I ended up snapping out of wherever I had gone to.

It feels hot, obviously but in a really enjoyable way. Little tiny teeth chomping away mixed with a hint of sting and heat. Mmmmm!

I adore wax for many reasons – not only does it make me happy from a masochistic point of view but it looks so pretty as well.

Clean up:

I equally enjoy this bit as much as the application. I don’t opt to oil myself up before hand. I enjoy feeling and picking the wax off.

Last night, my husband held me down quite aggressively and cleaned the wax off me with an opened scissors. Oh holy god was it hot as fuck. He intently focussed with force behind his hands as he grabbed onto whichever part of me until I was wax free. Every now and then, he would grab my throat and look at me. His eyes melt me, I can see his intent and love behind them, while equally making sure I am ok at the same time.

Once he was happy  was cleaned off – I was instructed to go have a hot shower and enjoy my headspace while he finished cleaning up. Afterwards, I hopped into bed beside him and enjoyed kisses, cuddles, and snuggles. The perfect aftercare I needed.

Read more about our BDSM Journey here

See more images relating to our BDSM journey here

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Wanna buy your own??

Godemiche candles can be purchased here

or you can try Kandles by Kitten too (who actually do wax jugs, which are also a fun way to try candles for the first time)

Please note I have not tried either of these candles so I cannot comment on user experience.

No affiliates have used in this post.

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13 Comments

missy April 1, 2020 at 4:29 pm

What an excellent post LSB and thank you for adding it to Tell Me About. This is a really informative piece which will be helpful to beginners and to those who have played with wax a bit before, as there are so many tips and ideas. I really like the safety warnings but the encouraging style you have used will inspire people to want to get out their candles and play – thank you ❤️

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LSB April 1, 2020 at 4:42 pm

Oh wow Thank you so much for such lovely feedback!! I was so excited when I saw the wax prompt pop up so thank you for inspiring this post x

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Marie Rebelle April 1, 2020 at 4:38 pm

This is a very informative article, LSB! Love the pictures you have shared here 🙂

Rebel xox

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LSB April 1, 2020 at 4:43 pm

Thanks so much, lovely Xx

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PurpleSole April 1, 2020 at 7:05 pm

Excellent piece and I have to agree that those photos are mega, such pretty colours.

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slave sindee April 2, 2020 at 6:09 am

wonderful post well done
and sexy pics too

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LSB April 2, 2020 at 12:16 pm

Thanks lovely <3 xx

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May More April 2, 2020 at 11:08 am

Your wax images are stunning. I agree the heat of the wax and the sort concentrated relax mode it puts a person in is perfect for escaping the worries of our present world.
I to like the peeling off bit lol
Xx

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LSB April 2, 2020 at 3:09 pm

Can you not do it anymore ? 🙁 Xx

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hislordship April 11, 2020 at 9:25 pm

Really well laid out and informative post LSB. I’m sure anyone looking for direction in this area of play will come back to your post, or saved the link! Lovely pictures and natural matter-of-fact way to show people how to drip hot wax on themselves. All sounds pretty normal to me!

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Marie Louise April 17, 2020 at 11:07 pm

Your wax pictures are so appealing. It makes me want to try out the play that would create those pictures. Love how different all of yours are

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LSB April 18, 2020 at 3:06 pm

Oh thank you <3 I love wax play.. I love to see my OH’s face and really feel his wrds with how pleased he is at his creation 🙂 x

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Brigit Delaney May 5, 2020 at 1:33 am

This is a VERY instructive article, LSB! It is something I have been interested in trying for a long time, and you have given me all the best tips to get started. All the things I have questioned, and yet not found straight, simple answers for are right here! Thank you!

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