Apologies – #LingerieisforEveryone

posted by LSB December 2, 2019 26 Comments

Please note that the conversation you read below is between a couple together over 12 years, where consent is a given and each other’s boundaries are known and respected. 

Lying in bed post-sex, basking in the last few ripples of my orgasm, I leaned over and said “sorry but I have to admit I just used you so I could get a good night’s night sleep”. “Well” he replied smugly, “I don’t feel violated”. “Good” I said and “thank you for my orgasm”. I leaned over and gave him a good night kiss and he took my fingers and entwined them in his.

Ironically he started to snore while my mind raced and I started to think about the prompt for this week’s wicked Wednesday, Apologies. I grabbed my phone and started typing this post.

It has been a hard summer and I have make no lies of that. I am as transparent on my blog as I can be. I had less sex, I didn’t take part in any sexy BDSM stuffs and overall, I was miserable and my poor little blog suffered because of it. And I guess this boils down to me not being able to produce content without actually doing what I am writing about.

an image for me in french knickers for a post called apologies

Still lying here, I think about who I am and what I do?

I am a blogger, a writer, a photographer and a reviewer… Do I really need to add sexy stories to that list too? My mind tells me to be accepted I do and I am telling it to fuck off because I don’t.

I am sick of apologising for who I am and what I don’t do. Silly but because the sex blogging community I am part of is dominated by erotica writers I feel I am constantly apologising for not being one. 

I can’t write fiction. Which in one way is a good thing? What you read in my blog has happened, I can’t make it up. Sometimes I do wish I could…For one, my review backlog would be gotten through quicker and there would be a lot more posts on my blog. But I can’t. Attempts I have made to write sexy… well if there was ever a need to make someone unaroused then I guess my attempt at sexy writing could be used for that, I jest. It’s not *that* bad…. but it will never see the light either. 

Please don’t feel reading this that it is you, or you, or even you that makes me feel this way because it is not. It is me. It is my painfully over-thinking brain that never shuts off and always makes me feel like I am not good enough.

I feel my fire is back. That feeling I get in belly has returned and I am looking forward to 2020 as a blogger who believes in themselves and stops second-guessing everything. I plan to kick its ass.



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fridayam December 2, 2019 at 11:17 pm

LSB we love you as you, end of story. You don’t have to be anyone else x

Queen’s Hubby December 3, 2019 at 3:28 am

As someone new to your blog…I say:
1-be yourself. It’s way more interesting than fiction
2-I can’t wait to see yum kick ass
3-that’s an awesome pic

slave sindee December 3, 2019 at 4:53 am

Agreed just be You. love when you write about your life experiences
Thank You for sharing

Lilly December 3, 2019 at 5:49 am

Every now and then we need a break and some quieter times.
Look forward to 2020

Floss December 3, 2019 at 6:49 am

Ah I so get this LSB, but I feel this way about reviews! I agonised over how to make them more unique to me, before realising I actually don’t like doing them and probably should just not bother, lol. I’ll do the odd one here and there, but overall I’m leaving it to folks like you who absolutely rock at what they do. Honestly, it amazes me how you can continually make reviews interesting, sexy and not repetitive. It’s a genuine talent and I see no reason why you should have to include other kinds of writing here that doesn’t come naturally to you. You are awesome and your blog rocks, keep doing what you do lovely x

Tabitha Rayne December 3, 2019 at 8:04 am

I concur 100%

Tabitha Rayne December 3, 2019 at 8:03 am

Wow LSB, here’s me thinking I’m not a proper sex Blogger because I only express myself through erotica ❤️ I’ll feel valid if you do, deal? This post really hit home how harshly we judge ourselves X x x you’re an amazing sex Blogger x

LSB December 3, 2019 at 1:32 pm

Deal 🙂 x

I’m not so sure why though – you are a bloody epic blogger, Tabitha. I’m not sure there is anything you couldn’t bring to the table <3

Ps. Now I have met you, I actually read things in your accent lol x

May More December 3, 2019 at 6:13 pm

You don’t need fiction LSB – you give us a part of you in so many ways. Your blog is awesome as are you – Ahhhhhhh lets hug xx

LSB December 4, 2019 at 12:44 am

<3 Xxx

Mysticlez December 4, 2019 at 6:14 pm

”Silly but because the sex blogging community I am part of is dominated by erotica writers I feel I am constantly apologising for not being one.”

I always feel this way too. I even put in my blog’s about section stating that I am not a sex blogger

LSB December 4, 2019 at 8:45 pm

It’s a rather shit feeling to have I must admit, so I send you all the hugs, lovely x

Victoria Blisse December 5, 2019 at 9:51 pm

We are so often hardest on myself. As an erotica writer I was scared stiff of becoming a sex blogger because I wasn’t sure I could put the real me out there. I’m glad to say I managed it, but I have great admiration for those who share their intimacies with such beauty. Thanks for sharing your insecurities as candidly too.

LSB December 6, 2019 at 9:49 pm

Yes, you most definitely have nailed it <3 Thank you for the lovely comment on my post xx

Ten Ways December 6, 2019 at 3:02 am


I’m new around here…but I just wanted to say great pic and great post! Just do what you love and skip the stuff you don’t. There are certainly times that I write fiction wishing it could be reality. Keep up the great work!

LSB December 6, 2019 at 9:48 pm

Hello and welcome to my blog <3 I am beginning to earn my feelings are similar for a lot of folk – just different things. I am glad I posted it all because it has made in realise I am not so different after all x

Elliott December 6, 2019 at 3:46 pm

The only thing stopping you from being a fiction writer is you. Write for yourself first, enjoy writing, turn yourself on writing. Make OH read them first and tell you how wonderful you are, because that’s exactly when everyone else will say, because we all think you are wonderful, and you will be a wonderful sex writer.

Oh by the way, this is a wonderful image. xo

p.s. never apologize

LSB December 6, 2019 at 9:43 pm

<3 Elliott, you are always so lovely and I sincerely thank you for that! Sadly, you are wrong this time because I really genuinely can’t. I am horrific at it but I thank you all the same for having that confidence in me Xxx <3

LSB December 6, 2019 at 9:51 pm

<3 Thank you for always reaching out and supporting me, you wonderful woman. I always appreciate it xx

violet December 7, 2019 at 1:04 am

You are seen, loved, accepted and an essential voice – adding fiction to your repertoire sounds like an unnecessary and unnatural (for you) thing to do, Be yourself, we like you just fine, xo

LSB December 7, 2019 at 9:28 am

<3 Thank you so much, lovely! Xx

DeviantSuccubus December 8, 2019 at 5:49 am

I am really glad that your fire is back! I don’t think that being a blogger has to have much rules or requirements. Write what you know, write what you do best. And I must say that I rather read about the struggles of not having time or libido to have sex, than erotic story after erotic story. Your blog has always seemed real, and you are incredible at photography and your reviews are entertaining. You stick out, you have your bran. And you are awesome!

LSB December 8, 2019 at 7:50 pm

I read this after waking up this morning and while doing some admin, I have just read it again. Thank you so much <3

Bee December 8, 2019 at 9:43 pm

I absolutely hear you on this, I can’t write fiction at all but feel as if I should if I want to call myself a sex blogger. Nobody puts pressure on us like ourselves!

You are fantastic as you are, a brilliant reviewer, sexy as hell and a true friend. Don’t ever forget that xx

LSB December 8, 2019 at 10:23 pm

N’awwwwhhh – that reply gave me alllllll the squishy feels <3 Xxx I am well chuffed you called me a friend, Bee – <3 xx

Brigit Delaney May 6, 2020 at 3:06 am

You already know it…but you only have to make yourself happy in this blogging world. That’s the only person you have power over anyway. Write what you know…and what you love…and readers will love and want to know what you have to say. And if they don’t…fuck em. It’s your blog.


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