Solo Shower Sex – My favourite way to Self Care – my readers must think I live in the shower. I would if I could, but sadly I don’t. I am, however, advocate for showers, especially sexy ones.
My most favourite way to self-care is to connect my phone to the Bluetooth system in the bedroom, grab a glass of red (Malbec, Shiraz or Merlot, if you are interested) and hop in for a piping hot shower and have a dance! If the mood takes me, I’ll bring some toys with me too. There is no pattern to what I bring, sometimes I will root out all the suction cup dildos I own and stick them all the wall and enjoy each one in my very own solo orgy or sometimes, sometimes I bring just a dildo.
That one dildo that I know will get me off, without the need for vibrations. The one that I need time to get there, but when I do, it’s so explosive I need to recover. This can happen when I have a free house, or when there are no small humans around so sadly those showers are a very rare occasion.
As I have mentioned before, I am lucky to have quite a large shower… I could easily fit 4 people in it, meaning it is quite long. While in there, I love to lie down while I play and I love to feel the water beat against my skin as I get off. While I very much enjoy orgasming, it is actually the post-orgasm bit I enjoy the most!
This evening’s shower orgasm was caused by my Godemiche Ambit and my Swan Wand. It was strong. I haven’t come since Tuesday and my body needed release. As I mentioned above, I always have music on – it very much varies what I listen to but as I lay there in a post-orgasmic haze, the water that was hitting my skin seems to be in correct rhythm to Kolsch’s remix of London Grammar’s Hell to the Liars. It was if I felt each drop hit my skin, and no, it wasn’t the wine. I have work tomorrow so I didn’t bring a glass with me, this time.
This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and this is the reason I have chosen to write about how I self care. I am not usually one to blog about mental wellbeing, there are loads of bloggers who do though (and they can be found here). I have not been diagnosed with an actual “title” so I feel I can’t really blog about it – however, I am most definitely an anxiety sufferer. You could probably throw in a dash of another title in there too – as I have had quite a traumatic childhood but I won’t! That side of me is well buried. The anxiety, however, rares its ugly head quite often and as much as I love my blog and all the social media aspects of it, Jesus, it doesn’t half cause me anxiety. I find I can go from being ok to completely triggered in a matter of minutes. Twitter, as much as I love it and all the people who keep me sane on there, it can equally make me feel ill. It triggers feelings of self-worth – “if such and such can juggle all this, then why the hell can’t I?; “oh god, I have missed a deadline again”, “Oh I really wanna write and get involved with that but what am I really? A reviewer? No one really gives two shits what I want to say regarding that”. Jesus my heart is racing after typing all that.
And that all there is the main reason my beloved BDSM Diaries section is sparse – simply because I feel I am not good enough to portray my own thoughts and feelings on the subject.
But maybe now I have actually gotten these words out? Maybe now I can claim those words and write what I feel.
Wow, yanno, that must have been one hell of a shower that caused all this to spill out. I am a true believer in the therapeutic healing powers of water. That again, I believe must stim back to from when I was a child. I used to spend hours in my local swimming pool. As I type that I also remember sitting in the pool in Portugal watching the raindrops hit the water – I think that moment really has been the most relaxed I have felt in many years. I long to go back.
So to go back to why I started writing all this? Solo Shower Sex – My favourite way to Self Care! Orgasms make me feel good, they give me release. Water helps me relax. It calms me. I feel I can breathe better. The mix of the two is the perfect way to self-care for me and I’m lazy – it’s an easy clean up if I do bring toys with me 😉
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