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5 tips for giving a great blowjob from him and her

posted by LSB September 30, 2019 3 Comments

Recently I was sent a batch of flavoured lube for review and rather than doing the usual round-up style post of telling you all what they are like, I decided to tell you all why I agreed to receive them instead. First things is first though – they are only an option to include them when giving a blowjob. Personally I prefer sucking cock without lube. I prefer to savour him, just him and nothing else. That being said loads of folk love flavoured lube so whatever floats your boat. The second thing is –  I don’t and won’t ever allow flavoured lube near me (well my nether regions) and especially the ones mentioned in this post as they are full of sugars and basically a bottled thrush infection waiting to happen.

When I decided I was gonna do this post – 5 tips for giving a great blowjob – I thought it might be better to include tips from the blowjob receiver too, so really I am spoiling you guys – it’s a 10 tips post!

5 tips for giving a great blowjob from him

 

This post spurred on a conversation which lead me to ask my OH what tips he would give someone on giving a great blowjob. Please note it is me writing his tips – explaining what he suggested and giving my thoughts on his words too!

1. Don’t worry about my face: This was an interesting one for me to hear. He claims he has been with women who actively spent more time pulling faces that they thought he would enjoy seeing while they sucked him off. Personally, it is not something I have done myself so this tip would never have popped into my head. My OH says it is more enjoyable for the receiver to see the giver enjoy themselves rather than to pull’ porn faces’. He found it actually off-putting ( I may however actually do this next time – I like to wind him up and stir a reaction, ha! Could turn into worse porn role play faces lol).

Missy's image giving a blowjob

Image belongs to Missy – click the image to see more from Missy over at Focused and Filthy

2. Watch my teeth: Yeah – this one actually features in my tips too, the only difference between us was I included ‘unless teeth are your kink’, which I’ll elaborate on further down but from his perspective he didn’t elaborate further. It was more a statement of fact – watch your teeth!!

 

3. Use your tongue: It would surprise the amount of folk who don’t so he recommends lots of tongue too. He especially enjoys getting his “banjo string” flicked and loves when around his head is traced with the tip of my tongue. He enjoys slow kisses and long tongue strokes.

 

4. Slow down: You’ll both feel more. Blowjobs are always shown in porn as someone going hell for leather and this can be enjoyable just as you’re about to shoot your load but overall, it is more enjoyable when it’s slower. Similar to me being on top so I’ve been told. ( LOL ) What can I say – I enjoy fucking him hard, as well as enjoying him grabbing on my hips to slow me down! I can ramble away on here because as a rule, my OH doesn’t actively read posts where I speak about him.

 

and last but certainly not least is his tip no. 5 Use hands too: This tip I 1 million percent agree with because I just love putting my hands everywhere on him… Usually though, I love one on the base of his cock that travels – usually around closely around cock proximity -to his balls, perineum and stroking him while he is in

Rebel's image giving a blowjob

Image belongs to Marie – click the image to see more from Marie over at Rebel’s Notes

my mouth. The other hand is usually found on his thigh. I enjoy feeling his muscles flex underneath my fingertips while his legs contract with pleasure. Oh god, even writing that makes my heart beat faster.

And that concludes his tips now for my 5!

 

5 tips for giving a great blowjob from her

 

1. Actually want to do it – we have all been in that situation where we aren’t sure and still try. (yes, younger me, I am looking at you!!) Fun fact – it really wasn’t an activity I enjoyed and did very very little of it until I got with my husband. You will know if you actually want to or not and it is 100% OK if you don’t! I really cannot stress this enough!!  Now I am not speaking about being in a situation where you are being forced, (that would be an entirely different kind of post)! No, I mean one of those situations where “my gf won’t suck my cock, how do I change her mind? – the answer is tied very much with my second point – you don’t – but communicate with her!

So when I say actually want to do it, I mean do it because you, yes, you, want to. This is important for several reasons – the main one being you should be comfortable in what you are doing, 2. it will translate to your partner you aren’t enjoying it which in turn makes them uncomfortable.

May's image giving a blowjob

Image belongs to May More – click the image to see more from May over at IfSexMatters

Which brings me to point 2. Communication – Please, please, please and I cannot stress this enough please communicate with your partner on what they like/dislike doing or receiving. You can do this in the form of dirty talk or just straight up asking them but find out. Maybe they might be keen to try some bum fun while you munch on them or maybe they enjoy a bit of teeth or maybe a toy or whatever the case is, ask!

This extends wayyyyyy past blowjobs too by the way – I really cannot stress how important it is to constantly communicate with whoever it is you are with.

3. Adding toys to the mix:  Now this tip can add in a completely new dimension into the mix. A vibrating cock ring, even a regular cock ring, a prostate toy, a regular standard butt plug or even a bullet vibe! Or maybe you could be really mean and cage them. I haven’t personally tried it but I have read posts on folk wearing a cage and being teased with a tongue until they are pressing against that cage. I must admit that sounds rather hot – and quite doable with the cage we have – I may have to try it and report back 😀

I often hold a bullet vibe in my hand while I stroke him and suck him off at the same time.

Image belongs to Molly – click the image to see more from Molly over at MollysDailyKiss

4. Watch for teeth, unless that’s your thing – We both included this as a point. I however, added in the bit about it being your thing because I know my OH enjoys when I kinda nibble of him. I often will tug at his balls with my teeth which he also enjoys but this only happened after a long time of testing the waters and learning what he enjoys. I by no means just latched on – I giggle writing that because I can imagine his face and he reaction I’d get but in all seriousness, don’t do that ! Ask first and see – you never know – your partner may enjoy more than a nibble.

 

 

And that brings me to the inspiration behind this post 5. Flavoured lubes: It wouldn’t be uncommon for folk who are wanting to try oral together to dip into the world of flavoured lubes. There are lots to brands other there to chose from but as I mentioned above I honestly prefer my OH without any and well, my OH hasn’t had and won’ have the option to use them on me.

 

I was sent over the 3 new System Jo Candy shop range of flavoured lubes for review – butterscotch, bubble gum and candy floss. All 3 flavours are really true to what they claim to taste like, surprisingly. I have tried flavoured lubes in the past and they taste like utter tack. I am happy to report these are actually quite yummy. I quite like the bubble gum one best – I would be happy to squirt it all over some ice cream!

You can get the System Jo Lubes from Harmony Store here.

Image Belongs to SystemJo

I must mention again because I just have to, that the lubes mentioned here claim to be sugar free yet have sucralose and glycerin in them – again, vulva owners would be best avoiding these lubes because both of those ingredients would make candida (thrush causing buggers) very happy indeed.

 

Lubes mentioned in this post were sent to me for review. This post however is not sponsored and no affiliate links are featured in it! 

 

I would like to take the opportunity to thank SystemJo for sending me the Candy Shop Lubes in exchange for an honest and impartial review – this, however, in no way changes my opinions on the items. What I honestly think, you read!

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3 Comments

May More October 1, 2019 at 9:04 am

What a great post LSB and TY for including my image 😉
Every one is different with what they like but I think being enthusiastic and communicating are certainly key xx

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Marie Rebelle October 4, 2019 at 5:34 pm

I love this post, and am proud to see my image here 🙂

Rebel xox

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Jennifer October 29, 2019 at 8:03 pm

Such a great post! Love it and going to try it. 🙂

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